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March 4, 2016 By cindyfinley

Property Rights and Other Practicalities of Real Life Parenting

When my kids were little, I said that if I ever wrote a book about parenting, this would be the title.

I gave birth to six kids within seven years. Here they are. Aren’t they the cutest?

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With this many “littles” around, I had days that I called “Moses Days” when it seemed like all I did was listen to the complaints one had against the other.  Most of them revolved around property rights.

“That’s mine.”

“She took it.”

“I had it first.”

Even today with my precious daughters …

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we still have property issues … mostly related to clothing. Can you relate?

It turns out that the Bible has a whole lot to say about the practicalities of property rights and so many other issues of real life parenting. Listen to this:

If anyone sins … (and) has found something lost and lied about it … he shall restore it in full and shall add a fifth to it, and give it to him to whom it belongs on the day he realizes his guilt … (H)e shall be forgiven. (Leviticus 6:1-7)

Here are three practicalities to teach to your kids:

  1. When you find something, give it back. “Finders, keepers, losers, weepers” is a sin. Plain and simple.
  2. If you keep the something and lie about it, it gets worse. You still need to give it back, but then you also need to make up for what you took. A fifth of the value of the item is a good guideline.
  3. When you give it back, ask forgiveness. What you did was wrong. You make it right by giving it back, making up for it, and asking forgiveness.

But as you teach these practicalities you need to know it’s not about the stuff. Actually it’s about a whole lot more than the stuff. It’s about hearts. Get this …

  • Our kids sin. They claim stuff that’s not their own. And they lie about it. Let’s not be so shocked at this.
  • If we, as parents, force a child to give back the stuff too quickly, we may miss the opportunity for our child to realize their guilt.
  • When a child realizes guilt, they either want to make it right, or they want to hide it. If we cultivate a culture of condemnation in our homes, then our kids are always going to want to hide it.
  • But, if we cultivate a culture of grace, then our kids are a whole lot more likely to want to make it right, even when it means that they need to make restitution.
  • Because in a culture of grace, relationships grow. People become more important than things. And brothers and sisters want to be restored to one another.

In your family, are property rights an issue? How do you handle “It’s mine!” And most important … would you buy Property Rights and Other Practicalities of Real Life Parenting?  🙂 Connect with me on Facebook. I’d love to hear your thoughts!

Filed Under: Family

March 2, 2016 By cindyfinley

What Can a 49-Year Old Female Learn from a Young Guy Like This?

A whole lot.

Several years ago I met with this young guy. Art Rainer is the VP of Institutional Advancement at Southeastern Baptist Theological Seminary. I was doing contract work for a variety of nonprofits and unsure about my next steps. I got together with Art and shared my story, my passions, and my key vocational milestones. Art gave specific encouragement and laid out several possible scenarios.

Several months later, we connected again. During those months, I had taken his counsel to heart. I had discontinued my contract work and began to focus exclusively on one ministry, RiverCross.

When we met this time, he gave me an hour of strategic input that has proved incredibly valuable as we are in the process of building our ministry plan.

Art writes on leadership, communications, ministry life, money, and personal development. I don’t subscribe to many blogs, but I subscribe to his. And 9 times out of 10, what he has written is something that I need to hear.

Here are a few of my favorite posts over the past few months:

7 Reasons You Can Be a Leader

6 Signs that Silos Exist in Your Organization

7 Ways to Destroy Your Leadership After a Promotion

5 Things Money Cannot Do For You

3 Steps to Break Through the Busyness of Leadership

Check out Art’s site and let me know what you think. And if one of his posts is exactly what you need to hear, tell me about it!  I’d love to connect with you over at my Facebook page.

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