In the Finley Family we’ve had a fair number of missing child crises. We’ve thrown the Charlottesville Mall into lock-down. We’ve had to turn the big red van around and retrieve a child left at the Salvation Army. And, we’ve scoured the waves at Pine Knoll Shores watching for the body of one of our daughters to surface. But, we’ve never lost a child for three days.
- longed to be near His father
- listened to the teachers at the temple, and
- loved his parents well by giving them truth to treasure
Now his parents went to the Jerusalem every year at the Feast of Passover. Luke 2:41
Every year Mary and Joseph went with family and friends to Jerusalem. This was probably a ten-day trip including travel time and their celebration of the feast. This annual pilgrimage was a tradition for Jesus’ family. Traditions are important to family culture. Traditions give our children benchmarks of the “way our family does things” as well as a sense of family identity.
Supposing him to be in the group, they went a day’s journey, but then they began to search for him among their relatives and acquaintances. Luke 2:44
I don’t see negligence in the way Mary and Joseph parented Jesus. I see trust. Surrounded by family and friends, they made a reasonable assumption that he was with them. Too many of us are “helicopter parents” and are so afraid of risk that we fail to communicate that we trust our children. I see in Mary and Joseph a culture of trust that I want my children to sense from me.
“Son, why have you treated us so? Your father and I have been anxiously searching for you.” Luke 2:48
Although Mary’s question was prompted by fear, and likely frustration, it’s an honest question. She didn’t bury her emotions and pretend like all was fine. She honestly communicated her feelings. Being able to truthfully, and with love, communicate your thoughts and feelings creates a healthy family culture.
His mother treasured up all these things in her heart. Luke 2:51
Just as she did following the shepherds visit to see Jesus (Luke 2:19), Mary thoughtfully considered all that had happened. I want to be this type of mother, one who considers the events of our lives and the hearts of my children, who prayerfully treasures, ponders, and cherishes them. I want to be a mother who seeks God’s perspective on our days, rather than simply my own limited sight.