5 Markers of the Mentor to Avoid
When Cameron was a little guy he made a decision to follow someone he thought looked like his daddy.
Our family had gone to the mall. I was in the women's Belk while Bill was herding the cats through the men's Belk.
Bill stopped to do a headcount and came up one short. He counted again, still one short. One more time … no Cameron.
With everyone sitting down, Bill begins to look through the racks and call Cameron's name. Soon he drew the attention of other shoppers and store personnel. He called me and I raced from my Belk toward his Belk stopping long enough at the info booth to give the security guy a picture of Cameron.
Before I could even make it into the men's Belk, I saw a security guard hoofing it toward me with Cameron in his arms. Oh. my. goodness!
Cameron told us he followed Daddy out of Belk's and down to Sears to get a hammer.
But the thing was, the guy he was following wasn't his daddy.
For Cameron the outcome was okay. The guy he was following wasn't an enemy. He was just a tall, dark, but not nearly-as-handsome-as-my-husband guy who looked, to Cameron, a lot like his daddy.
However, following the wrong person doesn't always have such a great outcome.
1. She is at the center of her life, not the cross. She doesn't see the need for the cross. And the last thing she would ever choose to do is pick up a cross.
2. She doesn't get eternity. She may be cavalier with a "better to reign in Hell" attitude. Or she may just be ambivalent. Or she may even think she's good enough to make it into heaven.
3. She seeks to satiate her physical appetites. Whether this is sex, food, or other physical pleasure, she is a hedonist in the classical sense of the word.
4. She delights in telling you about her exploits. She brags about her fun and conquests. She seems to delight in shocking you with her deeds and her language. She talks about how free she feels. She tells you that you're missing out.
5. She focuses on getting as much in this material world as possible. "The one who dies with the most toys wins" is her personal creed. Shopping is one of her drugs of choice.